Super Geek Seduction Guide GO! - Chaper 1: The Approach
One of the comments from a geek lady on the Preface asked where she could find all you Man-Geeks out there. Of course, your friendly neighborhood geek love guru has thoughts on this subject, but I’ll save this for another time. For now, let’s get back to the guide.
Be Yourself
If you forget or ignore every other bit of advice in these columns, please take this first bit to heart. Really, this is all you need for ultimate seduction. But sometimes it helps if someone else reminds you.
Besides, you’re a geek. This means you’re an awful lier. Dreadful, really.
Don’t hide your fandom. When you talk about the things you love, you do so with a fiery passion that will warm the heart of your maiden fare. She might not fully understand. But your knowledge and ferver will impress her. She might even think to herself, “if he’s so passionate about the nuances of Klingon metal working, what else might he be passionate about?” Your confidence in your fandom will translate to confidence in front of her.
Just Ask Already
Now before you get all nervous and spend endless nights going over how many ways she might reject you, just calm the freak down. You’ll never know until you try. She might say no. She might say YES! But if you never even ask her out, you’ll spend the rest of your days pining over a missed opportunity.
Go up to your girl, look her straight in the eyes, take a deep breath (oh, and please remember to brush you teeth before hand), and ask her if she would like to go out with you.
Strategery - A Roadmap to Geek Seduction
There are a few schools of thought on what exactly to say when you first ask a girl out. Generally speaking, it’s probably a bad idea to just blurt out the “L” word if you haven’t even established a solid base of even flirting. I made that mistake. I asked the girl in question to take a walk with me around the courtyard in front of the dorms. We met up and took a few steps and then I looked her dead in the eyes and said, “I’m in love with you.” Well, she didn’t really say anything. And we never went out. And I probably screwed up a decent enough friendship. I survived, and so will you if you jump in with the “L” word right away, but chances are, you’ll fare much better if you slow play it at first.
If you are going to ask the girl out, and you are, you should probably figure out a place to go out to. Your initial instincts might be to ask her out to a movie, but this is no good. Movies are a lousy way to get to know someone. You don’t really get to engage in real conversation and generally the tongue-down-the-throat attack doesn’t work on the first date.
Coffee is a nice neutral place to start. Coffee joints provide an excellent atmosphere to get to know one another. And even if you go to one of the more exotic coffee huts, it’s less expensive than dinner so it seems like less of a commitment and thus less scary for both of you.
If you can’t stand to feed more money to corporate moguls who charge too much for their black water swill and attempt to justify it by naming it different foreign-sounding names, lunch or brunch is a pretty good alternative. You don’t want to hit her with the dinner thing too early because dinners tend to be a little more serious territory. Coffee, lunch, brunch are all much more innocent sounding events that have a good chance of cracking even the most reluctant woman.
Alrighty then, we’ll leave it at that for now. Next week, we’ll talk about the first date. Oh yes, you will be going on a first date.
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