Fighting Without Fighting
An essential skill for couples to enjoy a long healthy life together is the art of fighting without fighting. This goes back to the assertion that communication is the foundation of a lasting relationship. Learning how to fight is part of open communication.
The trick is to express yourself openly and honestly to your significant other. If you don’t like something, don’t want to do something, feel negatively about something, speak up. Don’t make your significant other guess because no matter how well you two match with each other, he or she is not you. Ultimately, you’re the only one who knows how to say just what’s on your mind. Guessing games and passive aggressiveness can only lead to the type of fighting that will damage your relationship. Say what you mean and don’t be afraid of saying something your significant other disagrees with.
Try not to take things personally. Just because your significant other disagrees or may not want to do something doesn’t mean they don’t love you anymore. Being together doesn’t mean that you now automatically do and like the same things. Sure, try new things with each other, at least once. But if you find that you really don’t enjoy going to the smoky and loud karaoke bar, just say so.
Money matters always plague couples. These are usually the arguments that can break the strongest bonds. There’s no good solution for that, but again, your must speak openly and keep an open mind. Certainly, discuss major purchases before just heading to the store. If the flat screen shows up and you haven’t talked about it first, well, that’s going to be a problem.
Healthy fighting can actually help build a stronger relationship. Remember to be honest, open minded, and not to take things too personally.
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